things i'm afraid to tell you

May 14, 2012


so it all started when jess wrote this post on letting down the walls and talking about real life. no pretty pictures, no styled shoots depicting the glamorous aspects of one's day, no inspiration for the sake of inspiration. just real facts about the girl behind the blog. then ez was good enough to organize a movement of sorts, which i actually attempted to write a post for, but missed the deadline. mostly because i was a bit too afraid to hit publish. was i saying too much? was i (as usual) just being self-critical vs sharing things that others (you) could relate to? would i alienate all of these people that come to BIA everyday simply to find inspiration? so i never posted, but the idea festered. by the time megan initiated another wave, i knew exactly what i was really afraid to tell you (and myself).

i'm afraid to tell you that i need some time away from blogging. over the last few months, i've been able to identify some dreams that i'd like to chase. they're big, lofty, gutsy dreams and i want to make them come true. however, what i'm spending my days doing and talking about aren't things that entirely complement those dreams, and they need to if i want a chance at making them real. i think it will take stepping away to be thoughtful about a new direction and intentional in my content to get that shiz rolling. i'm not talking about a complete departure from what BIA has always been - in fact, this little space was instrumental in figuring out what my true talents are and how i can best leverage them. i.e. with your help, i've learned that i'm hella good at some things, and everyone knows that you should play to your strengths. so that's what i intend to do. i just haven't had the time or energy to get my bearings and start spinning things to best reflect my vision the way that i'd hoped to be doing by now.

i have no idea how long i'll be gone. i'll probably still have to stop in from time to time, because i don't know if i can completely be without this space (according to my mom, i won't last long. i've cried wolf to her before). plus, there are things like girls dinner and guest columns to share. i do know that i'm not the only one that will love what's going on around here when i get back, so don't go giving up on me. there's way more awesome to come. ox



other participating bloggers for wave #2 of things i'm afraid to tell you:
Coco + Kelley / Court & Hudson / Sacramento Street / My Cup of Te / Blog / MIMI+MEG / The Decorista / Modern Eve / Apartment 34 / Design Blahg / Vmac & Cheese / Miles to Style / Life in a Venti Cup  / The Zhush / Radiant Republic / Savvy Home / The Doctor's Closet / Design Manifest / {extra}ordinary wonders / Sparkling Footsteps / Hitha On The Go / Note To Self / So Much To Smile About / Blogstar / The Goods Design / Style & Pepper / Small Shop Studio  / Long Distance Loving / Maggie Rose Blog / The City Girl In Me / The Best Laid Plans / Concrete Jungle DC / Food Fashion Fitness / East Coast Chic

thanks again to jess for her initial post, and to ez for starting the movement. this is so refreshing!

bloggers that participated in ez's wave #1 of things i'm afraid to tell you:
Design for Mankind | Little Brown Pen | Beautiful Hello | Curating Style | Sweet Fine Day | The Jealous Curator | Happy Days | Sage & Berries | Really Handmade | Peck Life | Satsuma Press | Rena Tom | For the Easily Distracted | The Hemborg Wife | Vitamini Handmade | Courtney Khail Stationery and Design | Meg in Progress | Dando Photography Blog | Widdershins22 | Alison Citron | Pink Moon Daily | Just Pretty Things | From China Village | Tea with Me | The Darling Ewe | Not Your Average Ordinary | The Electric Typewriter | Elleby Design | Parsimonia {Secondhand With Style} | Life as an Artistpreneur | Hello Cupcake | Dellie | The A & B Stories | Pretty Little Things | Feistyelle | Nib & Zed | Well and Cheaply | I Ripple. I Dance. | Whitfield Awesome Blog | Foxtrot Press | Dry As Toast | The List of Now | Apple Blue | For the Love of | Four Flights of Fancy | Miss Modish | Snapshots & Secrets | Dirty Laundry | Bubby & Bean | Penelope's Press | Little Nostalgia | Vale Design | Pikaland | Fleurishing | Print Pretty | Vespa Tales | Hazel & Agnes | Amanda's Musings | Mo' Funk Designs | Ordinary Mommy | Camp 1899 | In Honor of Design | Liberty's Yarn | Love, Life & Pictures | Stacey Winters | Owl in the Rain | Living Life Creatively | Emma Elizabeth Clease | I Live in Vacouver Now | British Cream Tea

43 comments:

Naomi@DesignManifest said...

Hey you have to listen to yourself first and always! I'm proud of you for being brave and going after your dreams. xoxo

(Eileen) a creative day said...

Go girl! Can't wait to hear what you are up to.. and just remember, we will be your best cheerleaders!

xoxo
eileen

Like Me Some said...

When you know what you want you have to go for it! Sometimes just figuring that out is the hardest part, but going for it is even more impressive!!! Good luck and congrats! You are so talented and I hope we can still get our dose of awesomeness!

Erika [small shop] said...

Well this certainly deserves a conversation offline....very intrigued, and super excited for you, whatever the change may be! You are an inspiration because you are talented and real. What a combo.

These posts are perfect timing before we all meet each other next week, don't you think?

Sam [The Peak of Tres Chic] said...

Thank you for being brave enough to tell us, Tobe! We all love your blog but your health and your dreams are first and foremost. We will all be waiting for you when you decide to return! :)

annawithlove said...

Love this Tobe!! I've felt so many of the same things, love that you wrote this for us! GO GET EM' AND CHASE DOWN THOSE DREAMS! xxoo

Erin said...

BUT I JUST STARTED READING!

I mean, go get em tiger!

;)

My Interior Life said...

I'll be here waiting upon your return. Can't wait to see what dreams you're pursuing. On a different note, I noticed you're going to Blogfest. Me too. Can't believe it's just a week away and can't wait to meet you!

laura parke said...

tobe, i'm so proud of you and happy for you. it's tough to make choices for ourselves when we feel pressure to keep blogging, keep tweeting, keep pinning, but i'm inspired and grateful for your brave choice in choosing what's best for you right now. cheers to you and chasing your dreams! i'm cheering you along the way! xoxo!

Leah said...

wishing you the best on your new adventures! hate to see you go but totally understand and can't wait to hear how things are going!

Jessie @ Style and Pepper said...

Wow, not what I was expecting to see today, but SO excited for this new chapter of your life! :) I think YOU are awesome, and can't wait to see where this new adventure takes you, love! XO

Mrs. Gumshoe said...

You are meant for amazing things!! Go do it! I LOVE YOU! Onh.

ModFruGal said...

We'll be waiting for news of your new adventures! Go forth and chase those dreams!

Jennifer @ Belclaire House said...

You will be very missed, but I'm sure whatever you have up your sleeve will be amazing!!!

Gabrielle | Savvy Home said...

Lovely, I'm not going to lie and say we won't miss you around here but I'm incredibly proud of you for going after your dreams and support you 100%! I completely understand the feeling that sometimes something just has to give. Just make sure you keep in touch with little old us once in a while! And now I feel incredibly happy that I'll get you meet you before you go off and become a superstar. We'll be here when or if you want to return :) X

Maggie Rose said...

It makes me sad that you won't be here posting (at least not regularly) but I totally understand needing to create time to do what is your true calling. I hope you'll share with us how your big projects pan out so we can cheer you on! No doubt that you have many great things ahead, but we'll miss you!

Chelsea said...

Oh Tobe, we will obviously miss your regular posting, but I love seeing you acknowledge your strengths and prepare to chase your dreams. I am excited for this next wave for you and I hope that you will keep us in the loop. xo

Jessica {The Aestate} said...

Honestly, this is a huge bummer. BUT, I think you're absolutely doing the right thing. You'll always regret it if you don't go after your dreams. And, like the ladies commenting before me said, we'll all be waiting with open arms when you're ready to return!! xo

victoria | vmac+cheese said...

Proud of you, sista. I'll miss my daily dose of awesome, but I know you have big, exciting, gorgeous things brewing over there. We'll all be here whenever you feel like checking in!

jacquelyn | lark & linen said...

aw Tobe. You will be missed! But I fully and wholeheartedly support the next journey you take! And no one will be mad if you stop in here and there to give us an update ;)

Crissy @ House of Marlowe said...

Good for you! Enjoy your time away and can't wait to see what you come back with!

Meaghan [for a song] said...

I'll certainly miss your posts, but you gotta be you. Can't wait to see what you're working on when you get back...keep us in the loop, and good luck!

susie q said...

Congratulations on seeing it and seizing it! Can't wait to hear what 'it' is!! Have fun, do awesome things!

Tobe | Because It's Awesome said...

you guys are amazing. which is why i love you all dearly, and have been so afraid to admit that something has to give, and it's going to be this place....but just for awhile. and not a chance i'll stop bugging you all in your corners of the web! thank you for the supportive comments. ox

Lindsay Kim said...

Good luck Tobe! You will be amazing and leave everyone in awe in the wake of your shit storm. I know it.;)
Go gurl.

Apt. #34 said...

lady your talents are boundless and I'm DYING to know what you have up your sleeve. Thank you so much for investing even a speck of your skill on Apartment 34 because the blog is SO much better for it. xx

Amber said...

go tobe go!!

Jessica Davis said...

Oooh - I can't wait to hear about your new venture. Good luck!

sarah @ design me daily said...

How exciting and sad at the same time, but of course I understand! We all do. Good luck and keep us posted :)

Gaby [The Vault Files] said...

Tobe I'm so intrigued by this, what do you have up that sleeve? Can't wait to see what you come up with, I know it will be GREAT! I'll miss you so so much, and you already know how fortunate I feel to be working with you, it has been a blast. I'll forever be grateful that BIA brought us together on that column of us, I deeply enjoy working on it ;)

cassandra @ coco+kelley said...

GO FOR IT GIRL!!! it's so hard to leave behind the blogging when it's gotten you to this point in your life, but at the same time, if you've got a passion, you've gotta go for it! better to disappoint your readers than your dreams, ya know? ;) we'll be here when you're ready to come back (if you do!). have fun, and so glad you joined in on this group of round 2 ladies! xo

pve design said...

I think I must have stopped here for a reason.
pve

MFAMB said...

wait...what?

Rachel {little bits of lovely} said...

Hats off to you lady for making a tough choice, but following your heart. Hope everything goes well with your new adventure! xx

Sarah Roads said...

What the heck...I want to know more! I completely support you in whatever it is and I'm dying to know! How exciting for you! I'm looking forward to watching what unfolds in your life! xo

Redlilocks {Swoon Worthy} said...

Wow, brave lady! Good on ya for chasing your dreams, hun and wish you every single awesome success. xxx

Emily | Recently said...

Can't wait to see what you have in store! Cheers to making your dreams a reality and knocking all of our socks off yet again! :)

Abbie Florence said...

Good Luck following your DREAMS!!!

lemondropdreams said...

Good for you! Regret is way worse than fear...can't wait to hear what's in store for you!

Becca - {extra}ordinary wonders said...

It was so nice to meet you last night. I hope that this time away allows you the space to think about where you want to go. I think it's so important that we allow ourselves the time to do that. Have a great day!

Roxy Te said...

Tobe! Reed! I hope that your wildest dreams come true and that your little urban b&b in the sky becomes a reality. I believe in you girl! Now go get it ;) p.s. did you really say "c. a b.?" bahahha

jacquelyn | lark+linen said...

Just wanted to pop by and tell you I miss you already

Sarah Greenman said...

Big Lofty Dreams. They're the meaning of life... not blogging. I know I'm late to this party - mostly because I'm behind on my reading. But I love that you're taking the bull by the horns. Isn't it exhilarating? xo

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